Our MissionWhetstone’s mission is to “sharpen the character of young men by modeling the life of Christ, mentoring them through authentic relationships, imparting the love of creation and teaching the joy of work, thus equipping them to be servant-leaders in their families and communities.”
Who do you serve?
Whetstone serves families with boys between the ages of 11-15 who are struggling with addiction, anger, apathy, depression, relationship, trauma, truancy and/or self-esteem, among a variety of other things. We are not staffed to treat severe addiction or mental psychosis. Many of the boys we serve have also been diagnosed with attention deficit, hyperactivity, oppositional defiance, and reactive attachment. BTW: Many of our staff have struggled with these also. It’s okay. We can help.
What is the length of a boy’s stay?
At a minimum, it takes 6 months to complete our program, so we recommend planning for 6-12 months. In this time, boys will work through a level system and earn the equivalent of at least one semester of academic credit in our boarding school. Parents must also make arrangement for 2 separate week long family visitations. We feel that these times are necessary to facilitate a successful return home upon graduation, and for our staff to conduct training and campus improvements.
What is your boy-to-staff ratio?
Whetstone’s greatest strength is its extremely low 3:1 boy-to-staff ratio. Because relationship-building is so fundamental to the therapeutic environment, this is something we feel very strongly about. While Missouri’s licensing limit is 8:1, we believe such a standard dramatically hinders the quality of care. In contrast, Whetstone has a 4 year track record of maintaining a 3:1 ratio…or lower. There are very few times during he course of a day that our boys are not attended to by multiple staff at once.
What is your daily structure like?
From the time he wakes up at 6:30 until he turns off his light at 9:30, each boy is given direct care and supervision. As he advances through our boarding school/program of therapy, and as he demonstrates greater responsibility, he is given greater freedom, but his time is always managed carefully in order to provide meaningful and therapeutic activity. Whetstone is a non-restraint facility, but if a boy chooses to leave, we will work with the proper authorities to provide for his safe return.
Do you offer/participate in community service?
Servant-leadership is the highest goal in character development. To this end, each boy contributes a minimum of six hours of community service per week. In order to accomplish this, school work is completed in 4 days, allowing one day during each work week for service. A typical boy will gather 300 community service hours in twelve months. These hours consist of projects and service completed on and off campus, with priority given to off-campus opportunities when available. These diverse experiences include but are not limited to:
Do you offer vocational training?
Whetstone believes that boys grow best when they are productively engaged in a project, and that mentoring is most effective when they work alongside other men in the accomplishment of a worthy goal. To this end, boys will gain hands-on experience with a variety of skills such as carpentry, fence building, leather work, gardening and a variety of agricultural activities. Depending upon the opportunities available during a boy’s enrollment, along with his level of interest and determination, he may even be able to earn academic credit for his work.
How do you address character/spiritual development?
Whetstone Boys Ranch is intentional and proactive when it comes to character development – a goal that is expressed in our very name. Like the purpose of a whetstone is to sharpen a knife, our purpose is to sharpen the mind, body and soul of each boy on our campus, making him useful for service in his family and community when he leaves. Our unique 4 Level/12 Trait system is incorporated into each aspect of our program. We take the sharpening concept to its limit, using every opportunity to instill 12 traits necessary for a successful and fulfilling life after they leave Whetstone. Beginning with the end in mind, we work through the 4/12 system in a detailed manner, applying Scripture and building relationships all along the way. On Level One, we focus on Honesty, Self-Control, and Kindness. Put into basic terms, we are looking for compliance. This stage generally lasts about one month. On Level Two, we raise the bar – continuing to hold him accountable for the first three traits, while adding Responsibility, Loyalty, and Purity. On Level Three, we begin building Perseverance, Humility, and Excellence. Finally, Level Four ambitiously seeks to equip boys with the high ideals of Wisdom, Joy, and Servant Leadership. (NOTE: The final three stages are designed to last from 3-4 months each.)
What animal skills do the boys learn on your ranch?
God created an amazing variety of animals for man to admire, nurture and train. In giving him dominion over them, he gave us the opportunity to learn important lessons about ourselves, our world and our relationship with Him. Whetstone Boys Ranch is committed to providing an animal rich environment that will allow for daily interaction and work-based therapy. Currently, we are in the process of developing a Farm Program that involve work with cattle, pigs, chickens, bees, 2 dogs…and a constantly varying number of cats.
Do you teach basic outdoorsmanship?
Nature is the best classroom. Countless lessons about truth, justice, beauty and harmony can be gleaned by simply sitting still long enough to observe the forever constant and constantly changing properties of wind, sky, earth and water. Our 285 acre ranch, nestled in the Ozark Mountain Region provides awesome and ample opportunity for boys to interact with the Creator of a classroom without walls. A sample of the classes we have offered in the past includes Winter Survival, Summer Survival, Fishing, Archery, Orienteering, Campfire Cooking, Shelter-Building, Knot-tying, and Disaster Readiness. In addition, each boy will participate in at least one “Adventure Week,” during which he will be challenged to grow mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually in the great outdoors.
What kind of athletics do you offer?
Whetstone Boys Ranch maintains a dynamic program of strength and endurance training by engagement in distance running, weight lifting, team and individual sports such as basketball, football, whiffle ball, golf, ultimate frisbee, can-jam, swimming, paintball and disc-golf. Each month, our Recreation Coordinator leads the boys in a series training and competitive exercises designed to help them develop skills that they can be proud of and they we will be able to transfer to their everyday lives. Beyond mere competition, athletics allow boys the opportunity to learn and practice important life-skills such as self-control, patience, endurance, fortitude, attentiveness and commitment. We try to capitalize on these bed-rock virtues, while also having good old-fashioned FUN!
What other kinds of recreation do you offer?
Whetstone was founded upon the belief that boys are built for adventure. This is simply the way they are wired. Our entire program is built around providing such forums for self-improvement. We are committed to designing an exciting program for your son that includes weekly opportunities for creative projects and skill development. During a year long stay, this will usually include fishing, swimming, hiking, camping, canoeing, kayaking, rock climbing, rappelling, paint-gun competition, bowling, model building, carpentry, woodworking, guitar, field trips to concerts, sporting events and museums, creative writing, movie-going and much more! A note about media: We never allow boys unsupervised access to the internet, television, music or movies. All exposure to these things is monitored and used intentionally to build character, educate and counsel. These things are not bad; but we believe the boys in our care need a lot of mentoring and guidance when using them.
What is your stance on medication?
It is our policy to administer medication if the parents wish, and if it is the recommendation of their family doctor. Potential reductions in medication, if desired, will only be attempted after consultation with medical/health care professionals. Having said this, Whetstone believes that full participation in our program will reduce the likelihood that most psychotropic medications will need to be taken long term.
What happens if you need to use restraint?
Our staff is trained in crisis management and de-escalation techniques through Therapeutic Crisis Intervention (TCI). Should the need arise, Whetstone is positioned to enlist the assistance of local juvenile and law enforcement officers. Our 50 years of combined experience working with boys has equipped us with a variety of formal and informal tools to address these issues when they arise, and more importantly, to prevent them from occurring in the first place.
What sorts of after-care/transitional services are offered?
Whetstone is not successful if your son is not successful. Whether this means sending transcripts to high schools, helping him to enlist in the military, preparing for the ACT, or simply keeping in touch on facebook, rest assured that we will be intentional and available when it comes to helping him make a smooth transition. Through a comprehensive system of therapy that includes consistent accountability and loving guidance, we hope to provide your son with a both a reason and an opportunity for lasting change. We are optimistic that our biggest problem might be that your son doesn’t want to leave. With God’s help, Whetstone might just become a home away from home.
What’s the cost?
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